The Single Girl’s Valentine’s Day Guide

NYC Board Certified Neuropsychiatrist Dr. Julia Samton Shares Tips on How to Avoid the V-Day Blues
New York  – Valentine’s Day is almost here and for many it’s a day to celebrate love and romance with that special someone.  Unfortunately, for others it’s their least favorite holiday.  Whether you just got out of a long-term relationship or you just happen to be single, you may not want to stop and smell the roses on the “most romantic day of the year.”  New York City’s board certified neuropsychiatrist Dr. Julia Samton shares a few heart-healthy tips on how to keep Valentine’s Day from becoming an emotional meltdown.

Splurge at a spa

Splurge at a spa

It’s February 14th, Not Valentine’s Day

When it comes down to it, Valentine’s Day isn’t really a big deal.  “Keep in mind that some of those “happy” couples you see while you’re out in about may be putting up a really good front and aren’t as happy as you think,” says Dr. Samton.  “It’s all about how someone treats you year round, not just on one day when it’s standard for someone to go out of their way in honor of the holiday.”  Although Valentine’s Day is meant to be a day that celebrates love, it really is just one day out of the year.

It’s Me, Not You

Be your own Valentine this holiday and pamper yourself by splurging on a day at the spa, a new haircut or a little retail therapy.  “You can still celebrate February 14th on your own terms,” says Dr. Samton.  “Is there something that you’d really love to do, but you’ve been making excuses for why you shouldn’t? Be your own Valentine and treat yourself to something special.”

Be My Valentine

Who says everyone should only get Valentines from those they’re dating?   “The day is about love, so send some Valentines to those you love the most – your family and friends,” advises Dr. Samton.  “You’ll feel good knowing that you made them feel special and maybe even made them dislike the day a little less.”

Have some quality time with yourself.

Have some quality time with yourself.

A Single Girl’s Night In

Order your favorite takeout, pour yourself a glass of your favorite Pinot Noir and watch Meryl Streep and Anne Hathaway duke it out in a fashion war in The Devil Wears Prada – for the gazillionth time.   “There’s no problem at all with staying in by yourself on Valentine’s Day.   If you’re single and don’t feel like going out, there’s no better way to spend Valentine’s Day,” says Dr. Samton.


Accepting What Is & Setting Goals for the Future

If you are alone and sad on Valentines Day, give yourself permission to experience all of your negative emotions.  “Remember that your romantic status today does not determine your entire future,” says Dr. Samton.   “Being single does not mean that there is something broken or wrong with you.  Don’t generalize your negative emotions to other aspects of your life.  Not having a relationship is hardly tantamount to failure.  Your romantic life is only one facet of who you are. It is also something that can change if you are unhappy with it.”

About Dr. Julia Samton

Dr. Julia Samton is Board Certified in Psychiatry and Neurology and is currently the Director of Manhattan Neuropsychiatric, P.C.  Dr. Samton is a voluntary faculty member at New York Hospital Weill Cornell and Lenox Hill Hospital in New York City.

Through an individualized combination of psychopharmacology, psychotherapy, and behavioral counseling, Dr. Samton is dedicated to helping her patients lead more satisfying lives. At Manhattan Neuropsychiatric, Dr. Samton also provides neuropsychological testing to diagnose and treat ADHD, guide career selection, and help optimize professional and academic achievement.

Dr. Samton first became interested in psychology and theories of the mind at a young age after exploring the writings of Freud from her father’s old University texts. Since then she has always been fascinated with how the brain impacts emotions and decided to pursue a dual residency training in neurology and psychiatry. Her unique background allows her to understand the biological basis of behavior, mood, and affect, and have a greater perspective on emotional development.

Dr. Samton graduated Summa cum Laude from the University of Vermont, where she was elected to Phi Beta Kappa. She attended Albert Einstein College of Medicine, and completed her residencies in Psychiatry and Neurology at New York Presbyterian Weill Cornell Medical Center. Following her training, she served as an Attending Physician at New York Hospital, where she developed and ran the Neuropsychiatry Consultation and Evaluation Service, the first of its kind in New York City. During her position at New York Hospital, she was an investigator on several research protocols examining traditional and alternative approaches to medical and emotional disorders.

After developing an expertise in academia, Dr. Samton founded Manhattan Neuropsychiatric, where she continues her clinical and scientific endeavors. As a voluntary faculty member at New York Hospital Weill Cornell and Lenox Hill Hospital, she takes part in medical student and resident education and serves as a mentor to students and young physicians interested in the field of neuropsychiatry.  She also supervises residents in matters related to psychopharmacology and psychotherapy.

Dr. Samton resides in New York City with her husband and two children.

Hospital Affiliations:

  • Assistant Attending in Psychiatry, New York Presbyterian-Weil Cornell Medical Center, New York, N.Y.
  • Assistant Attending, Lenox Hill Hospital in Neurology and Psychiatry, New York, N.Y.

Professional Honors:

  • Best Trainee Paper Award, The Society for Liaison Psychiatry, June 2004
  • Resident Research Award, American Psychiatric Association New York Regional Branch, May, 2004
  • Second Annual Dementia Congress Fellowship Award, September, 2003
  • Society for Biological Psychiatry, Lilly Fellowship Award, April, 2000

Professional Activity and Research

  • Director, Manhattan Neuropsychiatric, P.C.
  • Assistant Director, New York Headache Center
  • Investigator, S-Adenosyl-methionine (SAM-E) Treatment of depression in Parkinson’s Disease, New York Presbyterian Hospital- Weill Cornell Division

Neuropsychiatric Consult Service, New York Presbyterian Hospital- Weill Cornell Division

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