By David D.
Let me start off by telling you something interesting: I’ve personally stopped focusing on just getting phone numbers. I’ve found that EMAIL addresses are far better. (But I still get phone numbers too!)
Let me explain.
I perfected the art of getting phone numbers a couple of years ago.
If a woman is single, I can walk up to her and get her number in about a minute (if I’m in a hurry). I found out later, after working like a mad scientist on this that phone numbers DON’T EQUAL SUCCESS.
You see, women have many different reasons for giving out their phone numbers. Some love the attention of having a lot of men call them. Some like to turn guys down. Some are actually interested. But the universal feedback that I get from men, and in my personal experience, women act different on the phone than they do in person. When you call a woman for the first time, they’ll often start acting stand offish or even worse, just plain rude.
I’ve found that getting an email address is not only easier, but it gets more positive responses later on. It’s almost like women appreciate it that you’ve taken the time to think about what you’re going to say when you write an email to them. The other benefit of email is that it can be written and answered anytime. If you call, you have to actually reach them. But an email can be answered anytime. And I’ve found that emails are answered far more often than voicemail messages.
Here’s the how to:
After I’ve talked to a woman for about 3 or 4 minutes, I’ll often say something like “Well, it was nice meeting you. I’m going to get back to my friends.” They usually don’t know what to do, as they’re used to guys clinging to them. Then, just as I’m turning to walk away, and we kind of disconnect, I turn back and say “Do you have email?”
If they say yes, I take out a pen and paper and have them write it down. (This is great, as I just treat the ‘yes’ that they give me as a yes to get it from them as well. And they’ve ALL gone along with it so far) Then AS THEY’RE IN THE MIDDLE OF WRITING, I say “Write your number down there too.” When you ask for email, it’s very low risk for them, so they think “Fine, I’ll do that.”
Most women will give out an email address without thinking about it, because they know that they can not answer if they choose to later on. Asking them to write their number down while they’re writing their email address is very powerful because they’re already writing down one thing, and they usually write the number down immediately without thinking.
OK, then, as they’re writing down their phone number I say “Is this a number that you actually answer?” If they look at me and hesitate, or day that it’s their voicemail or pager number, then I say “Look, write your real number down. It’s going to be OK, I’ll only call you nine times a day.” They laugh, and give me their real number. If they say “No, I don’t have email” then I bust on them and say “Well, do you have electricity?” Then I say “Well, OK then… I like email better, but I’ll take your regular phone number. It’s so damn hard to reach people on the phone these days.”
Just realize that all you have to do is ask.
Like I said, I’ve tried all kinds of things. And I’ve gotten hundreds of phone numbers. And I use this exact sequence every time I talk to a woman and I want to get her phone number. I’ve gotten to the point where I can do this in a minute or two – no kidding! Now that you know the sequence, write it down with the words and the steps, and rehearse it in your mind over and over until you know exactly what to say for each step and each response.
Many guys have asked me “But what do I tell her as a reason why I want her number or email?” I’ve never had a woman ask me. If you ask, and they give it, then she knows why you asked. If she doesn’t give it to you, then she also knew why you asked. Just assume that this is the case.
If you ask every time, and you do it in a smooth, assuming, calm way, you’ll get a lot of emails and phone numbers.
Note: Carry a pen on you at all times. I prefer the Fisher Space Pen (chrome) because it’s small, classy, and women love it!
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